Relationships and the New Schwans Guy
I have been thinking about this for days. All my friends are going through various things in relationships. Separations, Beginnings, Retirement, Semi-Retirement, Heartache. I went to a friends blog (tutall) (I met him through a sweet woman name Granny Tazzy, go over and tell her how sweet she is, she really is a good down to earth person) and he summed up some of what I was thinking. He said we need acceptance. We need to accept people are the way they are and you can't change them. I don't believe we can change anyone just because we want it, like him. I think you have to accept them barnacles and all. I also believe you have to talk and communicate. Not just talk but sit someone down and ask about their true feelings. That doesn't always mean you will get through but I think it helps. I am not talking about anyone specifically that I know because I know some of you did all this. Then he used this lovely piece on another post.
I think I can't put my thoughts down in coherent form and don't want to talk about this any more. But I think of my friends often and what they are going through and wish I had the answers. When they hurt, I hurt for them. I do think that for some of you if things don't or haven't worked out it is because there is something far better for you in the future. I think it is better that you find out earlier rather than later and I mean way down the road if a relationship isn't going to work out. Just don't stop trusting. I had a hard first marriage but MrP and I will be married 30 years this year. He helped me learn to trust again and the same thing happened with him. I think because of our problems in our first relationships it made us appreciate each other more.
I should end it here but you know I can't and you all know that. We had another Schwans guy come today. Probably #16 or somewhere in that number. These guys drop like flies. The new one is only coming once a month because there are so few people ordering. That is because you will have one or five who don't keep up the route and people get sick of it and quit ordering. I laughed after this one left. MrP would call this one a "Painter". That is our code word for a type of person.
When we lived in Georgia we had this guy come and paint. He was real wide eyed, almost a vacant look in his eyes, like the "lights are on but no one is home" stare. He was very neat and a very good painter but he told MrP,"If you have liquor in the house I can't paint it". We said wha? He said, " I am a "Christian" and I can't work in a house that holds liquor". MrP said, "Oh, well, we don't drink". We don't, much or on a regular basis. At the time we would have one on a holiday or New Years Eve. So MrP left the couple of bottles we had under the sink and as far as I know the guy is still alive and his psyche isn't bruised. So now when we come across a person with a wide eyed stare that borders on a fanatic look and an attitude to preach to you we call them a "Painter". The Schwans guy is a "Painter"
If you are a "Painter" don't come over here and preach to me about this blog.
I think I can't put my thoughts down in coherent form and don't want to talk about this any more. But I think of my friends often and what they are going through and wish I had the answers. When they hurt, I hurt for them. I do think that for some of you if things don't or haven't worked out it is because there is something far better for you in the future. I think it is better that you find out earlier rather than later and I mean way down the road if a relationship isn't going to work out. Just don't stop trusting. I had a hard first marriage but MrP and I will be married 30 years this year. He helped me learn to trust again and the same thing happened with him. I think because of our problems in our first relationships it made us appreciate each other more.
I should end it here but you know I can't and you all know that. We had another Schwans guy come today. Probably #16 or somewhere in that number. These guys drop like flies. The new one is only coming once a month because there are so few people ordering. That is because you will have one or five who don't keep up the route and people get sick of it and quit ordering. I laughed after this one left. MrP would call this one a "Painter". That is our code word for a type of person.
When we lived in Georgia we had this guy come and paint. He was real wide eyed, almost a vacant look in his eyes, like the "lights are on but no one is home" stare. He was very neat and a very good painter but he told MrP,"If you have liquor in the house I can't paint it". We said wha? He said, " I am a "Christian" and I can't work in a house that holds liquor". MrP said, "Oh, well, we don't drink". We don't, much or on a regular basis. At the time we would have one on a holiday or New Years Eve. So MrP left the couple of bottles we had under the sink and as far as I know the guy is still alive and his psyche isn't bruised. So now when we come across a person with a wide eyed stare that borders on a fanatic look and an attitude to preach to you we call them a "Painter". The Schwans guy is a "Painter"
If you are a "Painter" don't come over here and preach to me about this blog.
